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§ A “soul mate” is a person that we connect with on a deeper level – physically, mentally, emotionally, and psychologically. You just get each other, it’s like you’ve known each other forever. It just clicks. It’s electric.
§ Do I believe it? Sure I do, but I don’t think soulmates are necessarily romantic. You can have several soulmates over the course of your life. I also believe that sometimes, even if you have this deep connection, it doesn’t necessarily mean you are destined to be in someone’s life forever.
§ I’ve been there. ...
Happily Never After (Why is it never me)
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It’s so easy to be discouraged when you’re single and dating. It’s hard. Let’s not sugar coat it … dating can definitely SUCK and suck the life out of you.
• Dating can definitely seem like an endless gruelling journey. It goes on and on, the roads are usually bumpy and so many obstacles along the way trip you up and hurt you.
• It almost seems like your “happily ever after” is actually your “happily never after”.
• Before you throw in the towel and give up, you need to really stop and look at your ...
Is My Failed Relationship a Waste of Time?
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No one that has been in a failed relationship, serious or not, can say they haven’t felt like it was a waste of time. BEEN THERE DONE THAT! I felt like I wasted some of the prime years of my life with all my bad choices. But was it really a waste? Is any experience a waste of time?
• After a relationship has ended, we typically think back with lots of sadness and regret. We play the blame game. We blame ourselves for the bad choices, we blame others for using and abusing us or even leading us on.
• ...
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The single and dating pity party is a wild one! Lots of alcohol, trashy food, screaming, crying, anger, bitterness, resentment, blaming and shaming … what a wild ride!
• Make sure to bring pictures and items of significance. You might want to bring your phone so you can send irrational and emotional texts. This dating pity party promises to extinguish whatever positive hopeful light you still have lit inside of you BUT it’s your party and you can cry if you want to, right? Well…
• There’s no doubt we all have had our own pit...
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Divorce sucks! It TOTALLY sucks! I can say that from personal experience. You feel like a totally failure in life. You question “forever”. Your trust of others goes down the toilet. Regardless of why you divorce, even if it’s amicable, it’s never easy. It scars you for life BUT it’s not a death sentence.
• It seems that divorce has become even more common after the pandemic forced couples to live and work under the same roof. Whatever was left of some relationships was decimated.
• This has propelled people back into the vol...
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§ Social Media now plays a significant role in your dating life and can have both positive and negative effects.
§ You need to navigate the dating waters with Social Media very carefully because you can’t believe everything you see or hear online. Anyone can write and be anything they want when they’re hiding behind a screen.
§ Some people like to use it to reach out to people rather than use dating apps, particularly those who are in distant places. These encounters are scary because many of them lead to catfishing and fraud s...
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§ What’s YOUR digital footprint? Do you even know? How much can someone find out about you just by searching online?
§ It’s really hard to keep anything secret with the popularity Social Media and Google - the snooping possibilities are endless.
§ Face it, we’re nosy by nature. We’re curious. When the information is out there, especially if it’s in the public domain, is it fair game? Well… it depends.
§ I’ve definitely done it. Not most times, but sometimes I’ve researched dates before meeting them, more just to confirm what they told me about...
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§ They say to have an attitude of gratitude and it really isn’t bad advice.
§ However, we don’t always feel so grateful, particularly when it comes to our love lives.
§ It’s really difficult to be grateful for our experiences, especially when things don’t go so well with someone you’re dating.
§ What I get my clients to do is to keep a daily gratitude journal.
§ By remembering how lucky we are and how much we really do have to be grateful for, we can quickly realize that it’s not about the bad experiences in our lives, it’s about the lessons learned and how it shap...
Does Unconditional Love Exist?
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§ Each and every person seeks relationship with those who will love us completely, with all our flaws, all our bad moods and especially when we’re not so lovable. Someone who will selflessly love us … essentially we’re looking for unconditional love, but, is that even realistic?
§ However, expecting “unconditional love”, is, well, unrealistic because it’s expecting a lot from others.
§ Love goes both ways. We need respect, understanding and nurturing.
§ Instead of always expecting unconditional love, ...
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§ A good date, essentially makes you want more. A bad date, you want to run for the hills. Is it really that simple? Sometimes (when you’re lucky!)
§ Sometimes, you’re on the fence and it’s not a hard pass, perhaps a hard maybe? How do you know what to do?
§ On the most part, some examples of what you need to look out for:
Good Date
- attraction, makes you smile/laugh, good conversation, eye contact, common interests, you feel special, it feel right, you want to kiss them
- doing something fun, an activity date rather than just coffee...
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If you’re interested in someone, you should totally make a move. Don’t let an opportunity pass you by even if your pride might take a hit.
• Scary? Yes. Worth it? Definitely!
• You need to know how to gauge someone’s potential interest by “feeling” the situation. Body language is everything.
• Also, confidence is key! Know who you are and what you have to offer. This way, if you are rejected it won’t bother you.
• Look good, smell good and feel good. No one wants to date the stinky guy/girl.
• Once you approach someone, here are some thi...
Hero Dating (No Works in Progress). Connect with Suzie at www.SingleDatingDiva.com
Fancy yourself a hero? How about a fairy godmother/father? A construction worker? Maybe a therapist? Or maybe you have a big heart.
• You make excuses for them … all they need is a little love, a little help getting on their feet … all they need is YOU!! You are certain that can save them from themselves. You LOVE that they need you (talk about an ego boost). You want to turn that work in progress into your own miracle. You want to turn that bad boy/girl into the prince/princess charming.
• What does a w...
LRT maintenance needs more supervision? No shit!
Trump's new social media platform.
Where is all this anger coming from?
Attacking a senior at their worst moment?
And... Anti vax.
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Anyone who dates online knows well that there are a lot of questionable types on there, some great catches, but most are somewhere in the middle. Ask yourself where you fit. Honestly.
• The online dating weeds are usually the loudest and most charming, they tell you what you want to hear, how you want to hear it and they definitely “choke out” quality profiles just like your garden weeds.
• These weeds usually end up being the time wasters, without a doubt.
• You can be a good weeder, you just need to be better equipped. Here’s how:
- have...
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The most challenging part about dating is actually getting that date!
• There’s a lot of competition and not as much selection as we would hope. That’s why we tend to grab the low hanging fruit BUT the low hanging fruit isn’t always the best fruit, really you need to aim higher.
• There are some things you do to ensure you get quality and not necessarily quantity:
- know your worth and be mentally/emotionally prepared for a real relationship
- attract a quality partner by BEING a quality partner, be who you want to date
- get out of your co...
First Sleepover
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First sleepovers can be very stressful situations. You want things to go well.
• Perhaps you do things in your sleep that you don’t even know about or you wake up looking and maybe smelling gross.
• Your first priority is comfort and trust. Yours and theirs. As well as safety. This isn’t for someone you’ve just met online and never dated in person. Home dates are NOT first dates (more like a few dates in).
• Home dates almost always end up in some physical action. Make sure you are ready for something physical to...
How can I be a better flirt?
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Men and women flirt differently. Women tend to be more subtle, batting eyelashes, playing with hair. Men are more likely to make bold gestures (on the most part).
• While some prefer the passive or cautious approach, I want to encourage singles to take an active approach to flirting and be better flirts showing someone that they are actually interested.
• You never know unless you try! Don’t worry about rejection, it sucks and maybe a blow to the ego but remember they don’t really know you. They are r...
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Has someone left you high and dry? Totally unexpected? Or maybe you want to end things in a dead end relationship? It is natural for things to end sometimes, it happens, not every liaison will work out.
• It’s totally hard and sucks big time if someone does end things or ghosts you.
• However, if someone does not want to be in your life why would you still want them there?
• We have this nasty habit of remembering the good times and conveniently forgetting the bad. I always encourage singles getting over someone when they ...
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A lot of people are so confused about if someone likes them or not. What do I say about that? Well if you know, you know.
• If you are confused and not feeling so confident about it then it is your gut telling you things may not be there yet.
• If someone likes you, they’ll want to get to know you (in person, in real life), they will want to speak to you and spend time with you. Their body language will be obvious.
• They will also care what they look and smell like around you. They want to make a good impression.
• It’s actually pretty o...
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Winning the dating race (Keeping it slow and steady)
In order to protect the longevity of a relationship, new couples should enter into the relationship slowly and get to know each other at a slower pace.
• I have always said that a fire that burns fast and hot will burn out just as fast. It has happened to me and it has happened to most of you. Admit it.
• Sometimes you meet someone, have instant chemistry, everything moves super fast and then BAM it’s over before it even began, what happened? Well you ate your whole cake in one sitting.
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Instant chemistry. The “wow factor“. Does it really matter? Well, yes and no.
• Do you need chemistry to make a relationship work? I think it is important, yes. Do you need INSTANT chemistry? No, not necessarily.
• The problem with the current dating environment is that people are looking for that initial spark, the WOW, the fireworks when they first meet someone. If they don’t feel it then they’ll discount the person completely. I say that is WRONG.
• I’ve at time had instant chemistry and sometimes not. I...
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My personal injury not going ahead. I feel so stuck.
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§ So many people are in these complicated situations where they are the other women or man, they are fully aware and still continue (note that I’m speaking about secret relationships, not open ones)
§ Sometimes they are not even in a relationship but they still keep you secret but either way secret relationships ARE NOT romantic, neither is forbidden love, we are not 12.
§ While you can’t always help who you fall in love with, you can help what you do about it
§ Everyone has their different reasons, it could be ego, it could b...
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