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Connect with Sue at: www.DivaOfLove.com§ Confidence in yourself means knowing you are great at something, you feel good about who you are and what you are bringing to the table.§ When you are self-confident, you always have something good to say about yourself rather than always putting yourself down or comparing yourself to others.§ Body language counts too. Self-confident people have a different energy and presence. They make eye contact and keep a straight back.§ You need to be proud of everything that you have achieved. It could seem a small thing to you, but any achievement counts towa...
Suzie is online at www.DivaOfLove.com§ “Imperfection is perfection.” Said the musician Flume and I would agree. We are all perfect in our imperfections because these imperfections are perfect for us. They ARE us. We should celebrate them.§ Embracing and even celebrating your imperfections is really about accepting everything as it is now, including yourself.§ You need to love everything about yourself – yes, even your rolls, wrinkles, bruises, scars, aches and pains, silliness and mistakes.§ Who has to say what is perfect anyway? It is relative and subjective. As they say,...
Connect with Suzie @ www.DivaOfLove.comWe live in a very image based society. Between the dating apps, social media influencers and entertainment, we are bombarded with images of seemingly perfect people.•However, these perfect images are, in fact, imperfect in every way. Most of the time there are several takes, lots of beauty enhancers and filters and set up situations. •Is image important? Of course, it is but not every image has to be perfect and we should not compare ourselves to others. •Embracing imperfections means saying, as Brene Brown wrote: “I am imperfect, vulnerable & sometime...
My desire to find true leadership continues. Plus... Why I feel that we need to hear the convoy protestors out.Let Me Just Say THIS About THAT. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
§ We all have our comfort zones, and, well, yes, they are comfortable, familiar and cozy because we know what to expect and how to handle it BUT perhaps you need to start thinking of your comfort zone like a cage.§ Increasing your self-worth and confidence happens when you step outside the zone.§ Choosing to remain in your comfort zone stunts your growth and progress.§ You can better yourself and enhance your chances of success when you step out of your comfort zone.§ You cannot make any progress in your life if you do not try something different.§ In fact, staying in your comfort zone will...
§ One of my favorite quotes is from Tene Edwards and it reads, “Know your worth. You must find the courage to leave the table is respect is no longer being served.” Wow! So powerful!§ Those who value their worth are usually happier because they are more confident and are more comfortable in who they are are.§ When you value your worth, you stop tolerating, or even excusing, lack of respect.§ A part of this is also self-respect. Not everyone is there yet, and that is OK but it is a goal worth reaching for.§ It starts with believing that you're worthy and valuing your worth an...
§ Know and value your worth. We all often undervalue ourselves and let others have discounts when it comes to our physical, mental and emotional worth.§ We shy away from praise or do not even feel we are worthy of it or that it is necessary. Many of us, me included, were raised to be “humble” but that made me really uncomfortable with receiving. Something I am personally working on.§ Many discount their worth because of low self-esteem, which is something they either grew up with or acquired as time went on.§ It is really important to have an accurate understanding of who yo...
Connect with Suzie at www.DivaOfLove.com§ Self-respect is having pride and confidence in yourself, liking yourself for who and what you are, regardless of our deficits.§ You are so much better than you believe you are. It is true.§ Having self-respect is not the same as having a big ego; it is a demonstration of strength.§ The Buddha said, “YOU, yourself, just as much as anyone in the universe deserve YOUR love and affection.” So do you love yourself? Love who you are?§ Never lose your self-respect or dignity trying to please other people, be true to your values.§ If you do not demonstrate ...
Connect with Suzie at www.DivaOfLove.com§ You. Yes you! You are great!§ You are talented and capable of greatness.§ The problem is that most people do not believe that they are great.§ BUT it’s by knowing and celebrating who you are that you will truly know and enforce your worth.§ Identify what you love and what makes you special, what talents you have, what makes you stand out from the crowd.§ How to do this? Work at it. Yes, the “W” word. When you are exploring what you are great at you will have to work at building what is already there. For example, you may have a good singing voice bu...
Suzie is online @ www.DivaOfLove.com· One of the hardest things for people to accept is their worthiness of love and respect.· They may SAY they will not settle for less but they always do - from their friends, family, coworkers and love interests.· We have all been burnt on our journey and that can erode our self-esteem making us feel less worthy.· But I challenge you to take your power back! You are not a victim you an empowered strong person.· To be worthy of love and respect doesn't mean that you have to be perfect or better than anyone else.· No one person is more or less worthy or des...
Connect with Suzie at www.DivaOfLove.comBe a Team Player§ We live in a world that is interconnected. Whether we like it or not, we need each other.§ A team player actively contributes to their circle - whether it is a community, work, social or family group - for the greater good of all.§ Someone who is a good team player understands their personal roles and responsibilities as related to others but also that they are part of a collective. All do better when each person works for the betterment of all.§ Helping others becomes part of your daily life. Whatever that means for you. It could be...
Connect with Suzie at www.DivaOfLove.com§ It's easy to get carried away with life's craziness which is why we need to focus on taking control of our life ourselves rather than letting life control us.§ Control means different things to different people, so it is important to pinpoint what exactly you feel is out of control in your life in order to take the steps to regain control.§ Whatever "out of control" means for you, it represents a challenge you have to overcome. For example, if your house looks like a tornado ripped through it, organizing and cleaning may help regain your focus.§ Bei...
Connect with Suzie at www.DivaOfLove.comThe storms we face in life can be overwhelming. •It could, at times, feel unbearable, as if we cannot move another foot.•BUT we can. YOU can. You are STRONGER than your storm.•Using your past experiences and any supports that you have, you can get through anything. •Just be patient with yourself. Some journeys take longer than others do and that is OK.•This week's mantra: "I am stronger than my storm."•Write it down. Repeat it. BELIEVE IT!•POST IT NOTE: I am stronger than my storm Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Suzie is online at www.DivaOfLove.comIt is important to be known as someone who keeps their word and gets things done – essentially a “closer”.•This starts by setting goals and achieving them. Start small and then move to bigger ones. Small goals achieved will motivate you to do more. •Writing things down personally helps me achieve my goals. It makes it real and sometimes I write the steps I need to accomplish in order to achieve my goals. Then I put things into motion until they are done.•Being a closer is especially important in your interpersonal relationships. By being a person of your...
Connect with Suzie at www.DivaOfLove.comWe all have something we feel very strongly, even passionate, about.•Passion gives us a purpose and makes us feel that we have a purpose.•If you do not know, think about what you get excited about, what fulfils you and makes you excited, happy. Do not be afraid of it but embrace it.•Take that excitement and learn everything you can about whatever it is you’re passionate about and keep learning about it. You can also seek out others who have the same expertise and interests. Take some risks.•Make something real out of what you are passionate about and ...
You ARE where you need to be. •At this point in time you're learning the lessons you need for tomorrow.•You might not be where you WANT to be but you really are where you NEED to be. •When you accept today and show gratitude for it, you can begin living life forward. •A better tomorrow awaits you, but for now, appreciate the moment.•POST IT NOTE: I am where I need to bewww.DivaOfLove.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Not Owed Anything (Managing Expectations)Connect with Suzie at www.SingleDatingDiva.comThe one thing that can stand in between where you are and where you want to be in your dating life is your dating expectations. •Dating can be one of two things, dating can suck or dating can be a fun way of self-exploration. It’s really up to you.•It’s easy to get caught up in focusing on the outcome (where’s this going?) that we don’t enjoy the process.•Each and every single person looking for love has a list of what they are looking for. Some people just want to enjoy someone’s company, some just want ...
Another unplanned and unscripted conversation on The Milkman Show - inspired by a good friend and colleague who found herself in absolute hell yesterday when she discovered what her vindictive ex chose to do to her home... A home she shares with their daughters.That leads to talks about how people with ZERO investment in my business still feel like they are entitled to act as though they do. Being rude is a choice you make. Make better choices. This is why we find ourselves in a place where schools are the targets for threats of violence.And... As we're about to tie it all together w...
How to NOT Lose Yourself When Dating?(Ask Your Dating Expert Suzie @ www.SingleDatingDiva.com)It’s easy to get so caught up in our single and dating life that we lose ourselves, some even adapt or change to accommodate others. •The key words to keep in mind are: independence and codependence •While compromise is sometimes necessary, dating and falling in love, building connections with others doesn’t mean that you have to give up who you are or your independence.•Having a healthy relationship with yourself FIRST is essential. Someone you’re dating or even in a relationship with doesn’t repl...
Unrequited Love (Obsessive Love)Connect with Suzie The Dating Diva at www.SingleDatingDiva.com§ Show of hands, who always wants what they can’t have? The more we can’t have it, the more we want it!§ The allure of unrequited love is magnetic. There is nothing worse than wanting someone so badly and knowing you can’t have them. Nothing worse than finding the one you know you should be with but, as fate would have it, it’s not meant to be. Romeo and Juliet anyone?§ Countless readers have written me about these very situations. I’ve also been in their shoes and it sucks. But are we just succumb...
Connect with Suzie @ www.SingleDatingDiva.com§ A “soul mate” is a person that we connect with on a deeper level – physically, mentally, emotionally, and psychologically. You just get each other, it’s like you’ve known each other forever. It just clicks. It’s electric.§ Do I believe it? Sure I do, but I don’t think soulmates are necessarily romantic. You can have several soulmates over the course of your life. I also believe that sometimes, even if you have this deep connection, it doesn’t necessarily mean you are destined to be in someone’s life forever.§ I’ve been there. I ha...
Happily Never After (Why is it never me)Connect with Suzie at www.SingleDatingDiva.com It’s so easy to be discouraged when you’re single and dating. It’s hard. Let’s not sugar coat it … dating can definitely SUCK and suck the life out of you.•Dating can definitely seem like an endless gruelling journey. It goes on and on, the roads are usually bumpy and so many obstacles along the way trip you up and hurt you. •It almost seems like your “happily ever after” is actually your “happily never after”.•Before you throw in the towel and give up, you need to really stop and look at your dating jour...
Is My Failed Relationship a Waste of Time?Connect with Suzie at www.SingleDatingDiva.comNo one that has been in a failed relationship, serious or not, can say they haven’t felt like it was a waste of time. BEEN THERE DONE THAT! I felt like I wasted some of the prime years of my life with all my bad choices. But was it really a waste? Is any experience a waste of time? •After a relationship has ended, we typically think back with lots of sadness and regret. We play the blame game. We blame ourselves for the bad choices, we blame others for using and abusing us or even leading us on.•After my...
Connect with Suzie The Dating Diva at www.SingleDatingDiva.comThe single and dating pity party is a wild one! Lots of alcohol, trashy food, screaming, crying, anger, bitterness, resentment, blaming and shaming … what a wild ride! •Make sure to bring pictures and items of significance. You might want to bring your phone so you can send irrational and emotional texts. This dating pity party promises to extinguish whatever positive hopeful light you still have lit inside of you BUT it’s your party and you can cry if you want to, right? Well…•There’s no doubt we all have had our own pity party ...
Connect with Suzie The Dating Diva at www.SingleDatingDiva.comDivorce sucks! It TOTALLY sucks! I can say that from personal experience. You feel like a totally failure in life. You question “forever”. Your trust of others goes down the toilet. Regardless of why you divorce, even if it’s amicable, it’s never easy. It scars you for life BUT it’s not a death sentence.•It seems that divorce has become even more common after the pandemic forced couples to live and work under the same roof. Whatever was left of some relationships was decimated. •This has propelled people back into the volatile da...
Connect with Suzie at www.SingleDatingDiva.com§ Social Media now plays a significant role in your dating life and can have both positive and negative effects.§ You need to navigate the dating waters with Social Media very carefully because you can’t believe everything you see or hear online. Anyone can write and be anything they want when they’re hiding behind a screen.§ Some people like to use it to reach out to people rather than use dating apps, particularly those who are in distant places. These encounters are scary because many of them lead to catfishing and fraud situa...
Connect with Suzie at www.SingleDatingDiva.com§ What’s YOUR digital footprint? Do you even know? How much can someone find out about you just by searching online?§ It’s really hard to keep anything secret with the popularity Social Media and Google - the snooping possibilities are endless.§ Face it, we’re nosy by nature. We’re curious. When the information is out there, especially if it’s in the public domain, is it fair game? Well… it depends.§ I’ve definitely done it. Not most times, but sometimes I’ve researched dates before meeting them, more just to confirm what they told me about them...
www.SingleDatingDiva.com§ They say to have an attitude of gratitude and it really isn’t bad advice.§ However, we don’t always feel so grateful, particularly when it comes to our love lives.§ It’s really difficult to be grateful for our experiences, especially when things don’t go so well with someone you’re dating.§ What I get my clients to do is to keep a daily gratitude journal.§ By remembering how lucky we are and how much we really do have to be grateful for, we can quickly realize that it’s not about the bad experiences in our lives, it’s about the lessons learned and how it shapes our...
Does Unconditional Love Exist?(Ask Your Dating Expert Suzie at www.SingleDatingDiva.com)§ Each and every person seeks relationship with those who will love us completely, with all our flaws, all our bad moods and especially when we’re not so lovable. Someone who will selflessly love us … essentially we’re looking for unconditional love, but, is that even realistic?§ However, expecting “unconditional love”, is, well, unrealistic because it’s expecting a lot from others.§ Love goes both ways. We need respect, understanding and nurturing.§ Instead of always expecting unconditional love, we can...
With Suzie The Dating Diva! www.SingleDatingDiva.com§ A good date, essentially makes you want more. A bad date, you want to run for the hills. Is it really that simple? Sometimes (when you’re lucky!)§ Sometimes, you’re on the fence and it’s not a hard pass, perhaps a hard maybe? How do you know what to do?§ On the most part, some examples of what you need to look out for: Good Date - attraction, makes you smile/laugh, good conversation, eye contact, common interests, you feel special, it feel right, you want to kiss them- doing something fun, an activity date rather than just coffee, drink...